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You’ve probably heard the old saying “Home is where the heart is.” I believe it is true. A question harder to answer is where is home for you?

The presumption is where you live, your house. I agree with the first part, but not with the second. People have been trying to convince others the house and family in it are suppose to be the priority, and where your heart is to be. If this was truly possible why are there so many single parents with truly lost and confused kids.
I’ve heard “A home is not built out of concrete and lumber, but out of love.” The heart and love are one in the same. The love expressed by people is as different and diverse as the people themselves. If we are all so different then why are we made to believe the house is were our heart is suppose to be, and made to feel guilt if otherwise.

Here’s a couple of examples. Some love the ocean and feel calmed by being near it, so why live in a desert? Some love the open road, so why not drive truck and take the family with you. Or live in a modest house with a gorgeous motor home along side with monthly trips planned. Some love to work with their hands in a shop, and again have a modest home with an elaborate shop with room for everyone.
My point is we have made such a push for home and house, we have forgotten about heart and family.

I assumed when you got married you picked someone who had similar interest as you, if not that was less then brilliant. Your kids on the other hand are from you and it’s easy to assume they will have similar interests as you, so include them. Show them your heart.

I can hear it now, “What if they get hurt in the shop?” Here is the cold hard fact, kids are going to get hurt, but what is easier to handle, a cut finger or a drug addiction. Here’s another example, Little Bobby gets killed in a truck wreck because he was out of his seat helping Daddy shift, or Bobby frying is brain on meth because Daddy’s never home.

No, I don’t think it would matter if Bobby’s Dad stayed home and denied his heart. Little Bobby would still be confused about who he was. It’s painfully obvious the way we have been going for the last 20 – 30 years isn’t working. The proof is in our drug problem. People turn to drugs because their lost and confused, looking for any kind of escape. Let them embrace their hearts without any guilt, and watch the drug problem diminish. No federal budget required.

Conflict

I think it’s safe to say most don’t like conflicts, except for a chosen few. More about that later. A lot of us deal with the conflicts in our lives differently then others. Some seem to have the most annoying ability to just let things roll off them like water off a ducks back. Nothing bothers them. They always seem to have a smile which annoys me every time I see it, mainly because I have never had that ability and I’m extremely jealous. Then there are those who get really steamed up and quiet, but if you leave them alone things will be just fine. Then there’s the other annoying group who control themselves enough to take control of the situation. They know just what to say or not say, and are in control of the conflict instead of the conflict in control of them. The far left of the scale are the ones who let their opponent have it with both barrels like from a sawed off shotgun. It might have started off as a small conflict, but instead of just winning it you vaporized the other person.

Personally I’m not the first group, that’s why I find them so annoying. I have never been one to be able to just let things roll off my back. I wish I could as well as some other people in life, but I’m lucky to fall in the second group. I can go quite awhile until I reach a certain point and then I go from the second group to the fourth group so fast that it makes a Ferrari look like its standing still. What about the third group you say, well on those rare occasions I go and buy a lottery ticket. Granted sometimes people need to be hit with both barrels like someone drinking and driving, but my son not doing what I asked him to do because he was helping his baby sister, no. I don’t know about you, but I get real tired of asking for forgiveness when I do that and lately the lyrics from the country song “Lord, please help me help my stupid self” keep coming to mind.

Now let’s talk about the chosen few who seem to like conflicts. It will probably cost me a few donuts, but these are same annoying people who are from the third group. They seem to be able to take charge of a conflict with very controlled responses, of course the gun helps. I’m talking about the men and women who are doing there best to keep us safe from the bad guys and sometimes helping us with our stupid selves. Police officers are the only people I know that go to work and know that they are going to have to deal with a conflict at some point in their day if not several times. I know several officers personally and even when they are retired their still weird. God love them though, for unfortunately we desperately need these select few who put their lives on the line every day for never enough pay and not enough thank yous. Please except my personal THANK YOU.

The law enforcement industry is one industry, we all can agree on that we would like to see a business slow down. I would personally be happy to pay and officer to just sit around and do nothing, but unfortunately it’s one of those few government jobs that people don’t sit around at. Even when they are not on duty they are never really off. If you don’t believe me ask one of there spouses. We all can make it a little easier on them every day by just simply obeying the laws the best that we can, especially traffic laws. If people didn’t speed, drive drunk and get into accidents just think how much time they would have to go after the thieves, rapist, child molesters and murders. Cops have enough to worry about without us pulling bone head stupid stunts. Lets all do are part to be as safe as we can out there and thank an officer when we get a chance for doing a tough job while still being human themselves.

War - The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly

Now a days it seems to be common on TV to see a warning at the beginning of a show that says “Viewer discretion is advised”. Today I feel I should say “Reader discretion is advised”. If you look at life through rose colored glasses and everything is great, stop now, and run, far, far, away.

War is an ugly hellish thing. If you don’t agree, ring the bell for the nurse, it’s time for your medication. The ugliness of what one human can do to another is put in perfect clarity during the time of war. The worst part is I’m not talking about what happens just on the battle field, but at home.

The bad part about war is it seems to be inevitable. No matter how many wars to end all wars we have, it doesn’t end. People do not want to learn from others mistakes, or too easily forget. I will give credit to the people who protest a war before it starts, but after it’s already started, it just divides and weakens a country at a time when it needs as much strength as it can get. Strength, only can come from families across the country uniting together.

Experienced pilots know the best way to stay out of trouble with weather is to avoid it. Sometimes it means delaying a flight until the weather passes, or changing course to fly around the weather. But sometimes it just can’t be avoided; this is where it gets tough. Common sense tell us, even screams at us to get out, turn around, this is bad, but the experienced pilot knows the quickest and safest way out is to continue straight ahead. Most of the accidents are caused by trying to turn around. You can get disoriented and end up staying in the bad weather. The battle with the weather will wear you out, and bring the plane down. Now imagine everyone in the plane scared and screaming at the pilot to turn around. Let’s add another element. The pilot is getting information from the tower, which sees everything on their radar and advises the pilot which way is best to go to get through the storm. The people on the plane don’t know this for all their screaming, and the pilot is too busy fighting the plane to explain everything to them. The thing to remember is that the weather and war are both completely and truly unpredictable at times.

The good thing is the more experience you get the better you are, whether it’s predicting the weather, war, or riding a bicycle. I take great pride in being an American for we have the best trained and most experienced people in the world regardless if you are talking about our military or any other profession. Other countries may not care for us, but they know to come to us for the best training or when they need to get something difficult accomplished, we’re the can do country. We simply have good people in this great country who always keep trying to do better and learn more. That’s what keeps us out front.

As Americans even in this storm of war we enjoy a good life. Mothers can stand on a neighborhood side walk and talk with their kids playing around them with little to worry about. What the screaming people on the plane don’t realize is even if their right, the only thing that their accomplishing is making the others more scared. The pilot is going to do his job, right or wrong the best he can. Things wont change until a more experienced pilot can take over.
The question now is are you going to be one of the people who helps calm people down reminding them this war will be over soon, or one of those who just can’t help but to scream and make everyone else worry more. If history is any indication, all wars come to an end, good, bad, and ugly. Even if you’re the philosophical type, the war between good and evil will continue on, but the battlefield does change and move on.

Sex & Love

In the game of life, it’s hard to have meaningless sex after you have had meaningful sex with someone you truly love first. The opposite is also true. It’s hard to have meaningful sex with someone you truly love, if you first had meaningless sex with another.

First Time

This is my first time to put anything on the wide world of the Internet. A place I have looked up many things, but still have a hard time believing that things are real. Not so much real of not believing what I see, but in real people are on the other end. There is a vast amount of information, and some of it is even worth while. What really surprises me is it is free, for the most part. A lot of people have put in plenty of time, and effort in typing it all out, yet available for all to read without any cost.

I have heard many times, and have to admit I believe it. "There is no such thing as a free lunch", but when I need information I go to the Internet and find it. The only cost is my time to find it. Yes I know some say time is money, but I have more time then money. If you are reading this, please understand this is my first post. I have many editorials I will be posting here in the near future, and it is my hopes and dreams they are worth reading. Some it is for entertainment, but I hope to cause at least a thought or two as you read. I don't expect every one to agree with me, and thankfully this is a free country still where that is allowed.

I do welcome your comments. No, to be honest I pray I have written, and will continue to write material worth commenting on. I only ask it is kept family friendly. I want my kids to be able to read this without worry. I don't expect them to understand all of the topics, but I don't want to have to apologise for any thing either. Give me a chance and I will do my best to make it worth while to come back.