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You’ve probably heard the old saying “Home is where the heart is.” I believe it is true. A question harder to answer is where is home for you?

The presumption is where you live, your house. I agree with the first part, but not with the second. People have been trying to convince others the house and family in it are suppose to be the priority, and where your heart is to be. If this was truly possible why are there so many single parents with truly lost and confused kids.
I’ve heard “A home is not built out of concrete and lumber, but out of love.” The heart and love are one in the same. The love expressed by people is as different and diverse as the people themselves. If we are all so different then why are we made to believe the house is were our heart is suppose to be, and made to feel guilt if otherwise.

Here’s a couple of examples. Some love the ocean and feel calmed by being near it, so why live in a desert? Some love the open road, so why not drive truck and take the family with you. Or live in a modest house with a gorgeous motor home along side with monthly trips planned. Some love to work with their hands in a shop, and again have a modest home with an elaborate shop with room for everyone.
My point is we have made such a push for home and house, we have forgotten about heart and family.

I assumed when you got married you picked someone who had similar interest as you, if not that was less then brilliant. Your kids on the other hand are from you and it’s easy to assume they will have similar interests as you, so include them. Show them your heart.

I can hear it now, “What if they get hurt in the shop?” Here is the cold hard fact, kids are going to get hurt, but what is easier to handle, a cut finger or a drug addiction. Here’s another example, Little Bobby gets killed in a truck wreck because he was out of his seat helping Daddy shift, or Bobby frying is brain on meth because Daddy’s never home.

No, I don’t think it would matter if Bobby’s Dad stayed home and denied his heart. Little Bobby would still be confused about who he was. It’s painfully obvious the way we have been going for the last 20 – 30 years isn’t working. The proof is in our drug problem. People turn to drugs because their lost and confused, looking for any kind of escape. Let them embrace their hearts without any guilt, and watch the drug problem diminish. No federal budget required.